You have rights
When you care about someone, it’s natural to want to make them happy. It could mean watching their favorite movie together, cooking their favorite meal, or cheering them on as they go for a promotion at work. While these are all nice things to do for your partner, it’s important to make sure you feel safe, happy, and supported too.
Whether you’re single, dating someone new, or you’ve been with your partner for years, you deserve to be treated with love and respect. A good way to do this is to think about the basic rights you (yes, YOU!) have in every relationship, romantic or otherwise. We’ve included an example list below, but we encourage you to make your own!
Make your own relationships bill of rights
- Read the bill of rights below out loud to yourself.
- Star any rights that don’t feel true for you.
- Decide how you’d like to create your bill of rights. Type it into your phone, write it in your journal, or grab some markers and glitter and go wild.
- Put the rights you starred at the top of your list so you can focus on them. Next, add anything else from the list below you’d like to remember.
- Time to get creative. What other rights do you have in your relationships? What did we miss? Write down as many as you can think of.
Once you finish, keep your list in a safe place and look at it often. Try reading it out loud again. Start thinking of ways you can use these rights in your daily life. Once you know what your rights are in relationships, you’ll be able to make sure you are treated with respect and love.
Relationship bill of rights
- I have the right to be me, and to be good enough just as I am.
- I have the right to take care of myself first.
- I have the right to say no and do not have to explain myself.
- I have the right to feel safe.
- I have the right to love and be loved.
- I have the right to privacy and alone time.
- I have the right to grow and change.
- I have the right to trust my instincts.
- I have the right to choose a partner I can trust.
- I have the right to be treated with respect.
- I have the right to pursue my dreams.
- I have the right to ask questions.
- I have the right to form other healthy relationships.
- I have the right to express my opinion, even if someone doesn’t like it.
- I have the right to make mistakes.
- I have the right to not worry about what others think of me.
- I have the right to control my career and money.
- I have the right to control my own life and make my own decisions.
- I have the right to get angry and express my feelings.
- I have the right to not fix other adults’ problems.
- I have the right to ask for help.