Why trying to fix an abusive partner doesn’t work

Torn heart hanging from a wire

There is no easy fix for abuse.

“He promised he’ll change if I stay with him.”

“She needs me to help her become a better person.”

“Relationships are supposed to take work. If I’m patient and strong enough, we can work through this.”

It’s not uncommon to hear hopeful statements like these from people in abusive relationships. That’s because abusers know how to make their partners feel like they have a responsibility to stick around.

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How to spot emotional abuse

Woman staring out a window

Have you ever gotten a haircut that you really loved, only to have your partner tell you it makes you look bad? Or proudly shown your partner a project you worked really hard on, only to have them harshly criticize it? If so, you may have experienced emotional abuse.

Emotional abuse is domestic violence

When it comes to abusive relationships, people tend to think mostly of physical abuse like hitting or pushing. Since emotional abuse doesn’t leave bruises, it can be especially tough to spot. It’s important to identify emotional abuse because in many cases, it can lead to physical abuse as well. Continue reading “How to spot emotional abuse”

How to keep arguments healthy

A couple having an argument

Every couple argues.

While it’s probably not your favorite way to spend an afternoon, knowing how to keep your arguments healthy will go a long way in protecting your relationships as well as your mental well-being.

How do you know if your arguments are healthy?

Pay attention to the way you feel after an argument. Did it feel like a positive experience, leading to a good compromise? Or did you feel exhausted, attacked, or disrespected?

To help make your future disputes positive, we made a quick list of dos and don’ts. This is a two-way street. For a relationship to thrive, both partners need to be respectful in arguments. Continue reading “How to keep arguments healthy”