Courts as a tool for abuse
People often think that when a parent leaves an abusive relationship they will gain primary custody of the children. But many family courts don’t consider domestic violence a reason to deny the abuser partial or full child custody.
Survivors often face an uphill battle for custody. This is partly because abusers are more likely than non-abusers to challenge child custody decisions. And 70% of the time abusers succeed in getting partial or full custody of the children. Continue reading “Domestic Violence and Child Custody”
Survivors are heroes
Survivors of domestic violence are heroes. I first learned this when my wife, Amy, started her work as a crisis line volunteer for LifeWire over 20 years ago. I learned that survivors are often in life-threatening situations and that power, control, and violence are used as weapons. Since learning those first lessons, I’ve also learned that there is hope. As I’ve learned more about what LifeWire does, I’ve realized that it is possible to save lives and I’ve become hopeful that through education we can prevent domestic violence. Continue reading “Why I Give – Bob Maher”
What is Reproductive Coercion?
One in four survivors has experienced reproductive coercion, yet few people are familiar with the term. Reproductive coercion is any behavior aimed at controlling a person’s reproductive choices. It can take many different forms, including throwing away birth control or poking holes in condoms, lying about a vasectomy, or forcing a partner to get pregnant or have an abortion. One of the most deceptive forms of reproductive coercion is “stealthing” or removing a condom during sex without a partner’s consent. Continue reading “Domestic Violence and Reproductive Coercion”
I was raised by terrific parents. My dad always treated my mom and me with respect, admiration, and love. My mom set a powerful example by standing up for herself, stating her case, and compromising. Their marriage was (and still is) a partnership of mutual respect. In our home, everyone had a right and a voice. Every child and adult should live in such an environment.
That conviction made ending domestic violence my passion. It led me to volunteer and serve on the board. And it is why I continue to give my time and resources to LifeWire. Continue reading “Why I Give – Kim Olmstead”
At its best technology helps survivors of domestic violence connect with the resources and support they need. At its worst technology leaves survivors vulnerable to stalking, harassment, and gaslighting. Continue reading “Domestic Violence and Technology”