Everyone deserves to have a healthy and safe relationship, including YOU. And just because someone isn’t physically hurting you doesn’t mean they aren’t abusing you.

Remember, you are not alone.

  • Nearly 1.5 million U.S. high school students experience physical abuse from a dating partner in a single year.
  • One in three young people in the U.S. experience physical, sexual, emotional, or verbal abuse from a dating partner.
  • One in ten high school students has been purposefully hit, slapped, or physically hurt by a dating partner.

Signs of abuse

If you’re unsure whether or not a situation or relationship is abusive, ask yourself does your significant other:

  • Mock you, belittle you, or make you feel small?
  • Think his or her feelings are more important than yours?
  • Become easily jealous when you want to see your family or friends or are in certain social situations?
  • Control what you wear or how you look?
  • Text or call you repeatedly and get upset when you don’t answer?
  • Try to get you drunk or high?
  • Throw things at you or hit, kick, shove, strangle, or grab you?
  • Often make excuses for his or her behavior, especially when your significant other has┬ámistreated you?
  • Ever force you to have sex or perform any sexual acts when you don’t want to?
  • Make you feel afraid to end the relationship because your significant other has threatened to hurt you, him/herself, or a family member?
  • Control or restrict your use of birth control or condoms?

If you answered yes to any of these questions, we encourage you to seek support and help with your relationship.

LifeWire has a Youth Advocate who works directly with teens who have experienced dating violence. Call our 24-Hour Helpline at 425-746-1940 for more information.

Other resources:

  • loveisrespect.org: Loveisrespect engages, educates, and empowers young people to prevent and end abusive relationships.
  • That’s Not Cool: That’s Not Cool is dedicated to decreasing teen dating violence due to technology and is increasing awareness for healthy teen relationships online.