Thinking of Leaving?

Woman comforting friend

Leaving can be a hard decision to make. There are many reasons to stay in an abusive relationship and many reasons to go. Leaving may stop the abuse, but it can also be dangerous. It’s up to you to decide whether you’re ready or interested in leaving.

Leaving an abusive home

If you’re thinking about leaving your home, it helps to prepare. Safety planning looks different for everyone depending on your priorities and concerns. Here are a few things to consider as you think about leaving.

Share your plan

Let someone know what’s going on. Reach out to a family member, friend, doctor, coworker, mentor, or advocate for support and resources. You can also call our 24-Hour Helpline at 425-746-1940 to talk to an advocate.


Pack a bag for yourself and keep it in a safe place that your partner can’t quickly locate, like at a friend’s home or work. Pack for your children too. Collect important documents and personal items, including:

  • Social security cards or immigration records
  • Medical and immunization records
  • Driver’s license and passports
  • Insurance policies
  • Financial information, including bank statements, credit card statements, and mortgage or rental agreements
  • Prescription medicines for you and your children

Phone safety

Your phone and other devices can make it easier for your partner to find you. Hide a disposable phone in your car, bag, or another discreet location so you can still make and receive calls. If your cell phone has a GPS tracker, turn it off before leaving. Check out our guide on safety and digital devices.


If you and your partner share children and you’re worried about custody, you may be able to file for a Domestic Violence Protection Order (DVPO).

If you have questions or need support, call our 24-Hour Helpline at 425-746-1940.