Helping Young People
It can be scary and frustrating to know, or even think, that your child is in an abusive relationship. But as a parent, your support and guidance are especially important in helping young people understand the difference between healthy and unhealthy relationships.
If you suspect that your teen may be in an abusive relationship, look out for the following warning signs:
- They begin to separate from long-time friends, classmates, or family members.
- They starts to dress differently.
- Your child’s partner texts or calls them incessantly.
- They have unexplained bruises or marks on their body.
- They stop participating in extracurricular activities.
- Your child’s relationship becomes very serious in a short amount of time.
Remember, dating violence happens in opposite-sex and same-sex relationships and people of any gender can experience dating violence.
How you can help
Before approaching your child about potential abuse in their relationship, consider reaching out for support or guidance. As a parent or caretaker, your instinct is to protect your child. However, reacting strongly or suddenly to any situation could cause your child to shut down and isolate themselves from the safe and supportive people in their lives.
When you are ready, approach the conversation from a place of concern and empathy.
- Saying things to your child like “I’m concerned about you and it’s not okay for anyone to be treated like this” can help your child hear your concerns. It’s important to never imply that they brought something on themselves or did something to deserve abuse.
- Focus on negative behaviors, not the the person. Attacking your child’s partner can cause your child to become defensive and resistant to help.
- Encourage your child to reach out for help from a teen dating violence program, advocate, or counselor.
LifeWire has a full-time Youth Advocate who works directly with teens experiencing dating violence. Call our 24-Hour Helpline at 425-746-1940 for more information.
- Youth Eastside Services: Youth Eastside Services is a lifeline for kids and families coping with challenges such as emotional distress, substance abuse, and violence. Through intervention, outreach, and prevention, YES builds confidence and responsibility, strengthens family relationships, and advocates for a safer community that cares for its youth.
- Loveisrespect: Loveisrespect engages, educates and empowers young people to prevent and end abusive relationships.
- That’s Not Cool: That’s Not Cool is dedicated to decreasing teen dating violence due to technology, and is increasing awareness for healthy teen relationships online.