You are worthy and capable of healthy relationships
That’s an empowering thought, and it’s 100 percent true. If you have a hard time believing it right now, don’t worry. It can take some patience and dedicated self-love to get there.
We recommend saying it aloud to yourself to help internalize it. Some words are the most powerful when they come from within ourselves. So give it a try! Take a deep breath and say to yourself, “I am worthy and capable of building healthy relationships.”
“She needs me to help her become a better person.”
“Relationships are supposed to take work. If I’m patient and strong enough, we can work through this.”
It’s not uncommon to hear hopeful statements like these from people in abusive relationships. That’s because abusers know how to make their partners feel like they have a responsibility to stick around.
While it’s true that healthy relationships involve compromise, an abusive relationship is a totally different situation. No amount of compromise or patience will “fix” a partner who abuses you. If you find yourself tethered to an abusive partner and hope to repair the relationship, consider these factors first:
When you care about someone, it’s natural to want to make them happy. It could mean watching their favorite movie together, cooking their favorite meal, or cheering them on as they go for a promotion at work. While these are all nice things to do for your partner, it’s important to make sure you feel safe, happy, and supported too.