You are worthy and capable of healthy relationships
That’s an empowering thought, and it’s 100 percent true. If you have a hard time believing it right now, don’t worry. It can take some patience and dedicated self-love to get there.
We recommend saying it aloud to yourself to help internalize it. Some words are the most powerful when they come from within ourselves. So give it a try! Take a deep breath and say to yourself, “I am worthy and capable of building healthy relationships.”
“She needs me to help her become a better person.”
“Relationships are supposed to take work. If I’m patient and strong enough, we can work through this.”
It’s not uncommon to hear hopeful statements like these from people in abusive relationships. That’s because abusers know how to make their partners feel like they have a responsibility to stick around.
While it’s true that healthy relationships involve compromise, an abusive relationship is a totally different situation. No amount of compromise or patience will “fix” a partner who abuses you. If you find yourself tethered to an abusive partner and hope to repair the relationship, consider these factors first:
While it’s probably not your favorite way to spend an afternoon, knowing how to keep your arguments healthy will go a long way in protecting your relationships as well as your mental well-being.
How do you know if your arguments are healthy?
Pay attention to the way you feel after an argument. Did it feel like a positive experience, leading to a good compromise? Or did you feel exhausted, attacked, or disrespected?
To help make your future disputes positive, we made a quick list of dos and don’ts. This is a two-way street. For a relationship to thrive, both partners need to be respectful in arguments.
When you care about someone, it’s natural to want to make them happy. It could mean watching their favorite movie together, cooking their favorite meal, or cheering them on as they go for a promotion at work. While these are all nice things to do for your partner, it’s important to make sure you feel safe, happy, and supported too.
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